Potty training-AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Woe is me just let me tell you. Yes Emery is 3 years old and still isn't potty trained. She has been terrified of the toilet we even got her a little one and everything and she just screams and screams and screams and says i don't want to over and over. I'm at my wits end with this. Finally last week i decided that it's just time to hunker down and do it and deal with the battles and screaming because she is smart enough to go potty and she understands the whole concept she just doesn't want to. Let me tell you something about little miss claire. She is stubborn as all heck. When we tried to potty train her a couple of weeks ago i would just have her sit on her little toilet for hours and i'd read to her and we'd work on our letters on her chalk board in her room and addition and stuff like that all while she would sit on the toilet. Then she would pee and we'd get excited and it was great. Then i started to feel bad that she was just sitting on her toilet all day (yes we would take little breaks but still) So then i started to let her run around and we'd go and sit every hour on her toilet which would be a screaming battle every time. I would be giving her tons of water so i KNEW she had to go pee. This is what she would do... Wake up from sleeping 9 o clock go sit on toilet-nothing 9:30 go sit on toilet-nothing 10 go sit on toilet-nothing 1045 go sit on toilet-nothing 1130 go sit on toilet-nothing 12 go sit on toilet-nothing 1230 go sit on toilet-nothing 1 o clock-----nap time...(every time she was on the toilet it would be for at least 5-10 mins) about 3-330 she wakes up from nap time...diaper LOADED WITH PEE....me pulling my hair out grrrrrr give her more drink 4 go sit on toilet-nothing 445 go sit on toilet-nothing 530 go sit on toilet-nothing 615 go sit on toilet-nothing 7 go sit on toilet-nothing 745 go sit on toilet-nothing 8 is bed time....now i don't believe this is a coincidence by any means... the next day we'd do it all over again she holds her pee until nap time and bed time so that she doesn't have to pee on the toilet... Lovely right? So we stopped training because i was thinking maybe she wasn't ready or something because she's so freaked out about peeing in the toilet blah blah blah ...we started training again this morning... She has had an accident in her big girl panties...i refuse to buy more diapers so that i HAVE to hunker down and just do this potty training but im tellin you i might just go crazy also i decided that she isn't going to use the little toilet because i don't want to have to deal with the transition of going from little toilet to big toilet...NOOOOOPE anybody wanna train her for me :P